Yeah, life is short. I need to work and without work, life itself isn't very enjoyable. The people I work with are generally interesting and cool and working with the general public is always an adventure and a "sociological research study"
Chris
I, on the other hand, despise my coworkers. They are two faced, backstabbers who always try to get each other fired. The job itself is great. But the co-workers make it harder and harder to go in everyday.
Bill Schaeffer
I think the problem is "architectural" and not personal. If you work every day at the same time, in the same chair, in an office, you eventually absolutely hate everyone you work with even if they (and you) are basically decent people. If you work outside, or in different locations with a different crew members each day, you tend to tolerate their existence much more and find kind things to say about them even if they may not really deserve it.
For example -- for 15 years, I worked elbow to elbow 10 - 12 hours a day, 6 days a week, on VFX projects from 1996 - 2011. I worked with one thousand people in teams of up to 100 - 150 big. I worked on 39 features. Today few of those people stay in touch and I NEVER talk to any of them on the phone. They just don't exist. I don't exist. We shared almost nothing really, even though we sat elbow to elbow and listened to each other's phone conversations and smelled each other's food... The past doesn't even exist...The past never existed... just the credit card payments continue.
"We always hate the people closest to us the most." - Dr. Tony Bravado
Seriously, the human mind tends to give greater weight to negative information than it does to positive information. This is a life saving optimization. Unfortunately, if you have ten interactions with someone and five are positive, but two are negative, we unconsciously remember the negative information more. Over time we grow to hate those closest to us, even though we may recognize intellectually their good and admirable qualities. This is why the practice of "Being Thankful" or "Remembering the positive" is so important -- it helps to balance the equation.
"Nobody kills the stranger across town, they kill the backdoor neighbor who owes them money and is "too friendly" with other people's good company." - Zobo the Clown
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William Schaeffer
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