"Child Abuse" or "Beating and Whipping" ?

I prefer the description of "Beating and Whipping" instead of the phrase "Childhood Abuse" when describing my personal experience.  The phrase "Childhood Abuse" seems too mild sounding and soft.  I suspect the term "Child Abuse" is chosen subconsciously to minimize the awareness of the extreme unpleasantness of the experience.

I prefer the term "Beating and Whipping" because it more fully describes the experience of horror, screaming terror, absolute fright, humiliation, disgrace, begging, pleading, crying, silent conformity, nakedness, and ultimately -- a burning hatred for the perpetrator.


People who say, "Oh were you abused as a child?" or "Did you experience child abuse?" are subconsciously trying to minimize your experience, shame you and ultimately "gas light" you to preserve their own delusional impression of reality.  They are NOT sympathetic.  They have absolutely no understanding at all.  They just want you to stop talking about unpleasant things.


Anyone who uses the term "Child Abuse" exclusively instead of "punishment", "discipline", "hitting", "beating", "paddling", "whipping" is trying to minimize your experience and minimize your life.  They are trying to negate you as a person.


Most "Child Abuse" is psychically, and psychologically, analogous to getting both your legs broken by your parents and you are no longer able to walk.  You must be in a wheel chair for the rest of your life.  Even though other people cannot see it, the wheel chair is still there and you must operate it every day of your life.  People tell you to "Not think about it", or "Think pleasant thoughts instead" are not really interested in your life or your struggle at all.  They do not care if you live your life in a wheel chair.  They just want to use you, and your relationship, to their own advantage.  They are only interested in themselves.   Perhaps, they may be so blissfully ignorant of real life they cannot imagine what it is like to have both your legs broken by your own parents...


But, your history does not go away.  The effects of the trauma are real and are never completely healed.  You will never be entirely whole ever again.  You have to learn to accept this, so why cannot anybody else?


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William Schaeffer