Friday, March 6, 2015

Would you rather be right or happy?



Recently on a crew bus I heard a man complaining about his wife and the fact that she didn’t understand basic science.  Apparently they were having a disagreement about evolution, or global warming, or maybe math itself.

Then another person replied, “Would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy?”

And I thought to myself, "This statement does not apply."

When talking about restaurant choice, entertainment selections, color combinations, wardrobe, or the relative merits of different popular songs, this is a great philosophy.   In the grand scheme of things, these decisions are relatively trivial and unimportant, so it is good to be flexible and accommodating; let your companions feel comfortable and make the choice.

But when talking about math or science, this attitude just does not apply.  “Rightness” or “Correctness” is not a personal characteristic of one of the debaters, but an inherent property of the data.   To establish correctness, you can independently verify results and double check the math.  This establishes a proof, given the assumptions of the observations.   If the assumptions are wrong, or too general, then the proof can be called into question.   But, if the assumptions are agreed to, then the proof stands as correct, or right.  It will be considered a fact. (note: "agreement" in THIS case is not "agreement between the disputing parties"  but is instead "the general consensus of the entire professional society.")

 If at some time in the future, new information leads to the reevaluation of the assumptions, then a new calculation for truth may be derived. Possibly the previous results will remain valid.

In any event, TRUTH IS NOT JUST AN OPINION.   It is a logically verifiable fact independent of subjective observation.   This TRUTH cannot be “agreed to”, “disputed”, or “ignored”   It just IS.  

Gravity is a good example.  Oxygen is another.   We cannot choose to disagree with Gravity, or have misgivings about Oxygen.  That is nonsensical.  In a similar way, we cannot cherry pick historical or scientific truths without sound logical reasons; based on observable and verifiable phenomena.

For some discussions, the phrase “Would you rather be right, or be happy” is irrelevant and dangerous.  It can lead to personal disaster.


For other discussions, it is as appropriately benign as the subject being discussed itself.  At those times, I heartily suggest being tolerant and even passive.   Let the other person dominate the conversation, talk at length, and have their own way.  But in the quest of TRUTH, you must unfortunately be uncompromising, vigilant, and absolutely honest.    


copyright(c)2015
William Schaeffer

1 comment:

  1. This idea highlights a paradox of language noted in an earlier essay.

    Do you want to use language to find similarities to the other person and establish emotional bonds and connections, OR do you want to mutually explore the world of thought and bravely follow logic wherever it leads, regardless of the consequences? You cannot do both, you must choose.

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